"Beyond Answers & Analysis: The Missing Piece That Brings You Resolution After Your Divorce or Breakup.”

Hello again dear one,

Are you asking yourself a LOT of questions about your relationship’s end and what it means for you? Are you in deep soul-searching mode?

After my divorce, my brain attempted to earn a PhD in the how’s and why’s of my marriage’s breakdown, my actions in the aftermath, and what it all meant for me going forward.

When I wasn’t deeply engaged in analysis, I was trying to ESCAPE my thoughts and the emotions and sensations that accompanied them, but that’s for another e-mail.

Why couldn’t I _________?

Why didn’t he _______?

If I’d done X, would Y have been different?

I wanted the answers because I thought they'd bring healing and closure, but at times it felt more like my search for understanding was a self-propelled cycle of stress, frustration, and uncertainty.

The mental processing felt like a past relationship version of those “Pick your own adventure” books we read as kids. 

Each “adventure” started as a promising inquiry that I was sure would answer everything. 

Each mental path also came with its own internal weather, including varying levels of pain and/or resignation and storms of grief, bitterness, or shame spirals until the clouds parted to reveal a new question or avenue to go down.

I searched long and deep for the peace and healing I was sure I’d feel once I’d found the answers and analyzed every angle of what happened. 

In the end, I got my “how’s” and “why’s,” and that thirst felt satiated and soothed. 

The soul searching questions, journaling, meditation, and talk sessions— all of the things that the internet told me would bring answers and understanding—weren’t what finally brought me the resolution I was looking for.

These were a great beginning, but the missing piece to moving forward came when I added a deeper approach.

If you’re on the hunt for answers about your own relationship’s end or its implications for your healing, your future, and your heart and mind, there’s something I want you to know:

The tools you’re used to most likely address the questions or stories that go on in your mind.

Full healing & resolution: the kind that brings an embodied sense of peace, needs an approach that includes mind AND body—specifically the parts of your nervous system that an analytical approach leaves out.

Skipping the body will keep you in a search for resolution that is unnecessarily prolonged or never truly comes.

You deserve your answers AND your closure.

There are ways to come to a place of insight, understanding, and resolution about your past relationship/s and so that you can move forward with more energy and confidence.

Listen in to my mini-podcast Phoenix Speaks episode: 

"Beyond Answers & Analysis: The Missing Piece That Brings You Resolution After Your Divorce or Breakup.”

You'll learn:

·       The internal key players fueling the drive to understand how & why it ended (i.e. why we can feel both compelled and exhausted by thought spirals)

·       The limits of the typical mental/analytical approaches for the resolution of our nervous system responses (i.e. the limits of “closure”).

·       Why a holistic approach that incorporates somatic techniques is essential for an internal sense of resolution & peace.

·       How to engage the deeper layers of your nervous system so that you can experience an embodied sense of release and closure after your divorce or breakup.

·       Some additional benefits somatic techniques will bring to your daily life beyond healing from the hurt of divorce or breakup.

Have a listen and feel welcome to hit reply if it leaves you with any questions. 

For more about how to bring a somatic approach into your healing journey, keep your eyes peeled for more from me. I have so much I want to share with you.

Warmly, 

Kimberly