Hi dear one.
You might notice this message looks a little different. Welcome to your first edition of Phoenix Speaks: an audio edition of Phoenix Writes.
Sometimes I wish we were in the same room and I could actually share big things on my heart with you using my voice. Here’s the closest I can get.
You’ll receive these audio recordings occasionally, but most weeks will be the traditional written form.
I hope you’ll enjoy today’s message. It’s a really important one.
If I had to pick one medicine, one healing spell, one focus of growth for you to have above all others, it would be your sense of Self-Worth.
Why?
Because focusing on self-worth is not “at the expense of the other aspects of me.”
Self-worth is the foundation of health for the other aspects of me.
Self-worth is our inner affirmation, our body’s cellular encoding of “I matter.”
When you truly not just know, but deeply feel that you matter, the rest of your journey has meaning and purpose.
Your relationship to your needs—those things that fill you, fuel you, and allow you to function as your worthy human self on this planet, becomes natural.
Unapologetic.
Unattached to judgement or fear.
Clean.
As natural as drinking water.
In trust that our mattering does not extract from others, but allows us to give from a place of abundance.
When we truly feel worthy, we can communicate our needs,
protect them through our sovereignty
and
have a deeper value of the needs of others as sovereign beings.
We can express ourselves; our talents, voices, truths, and wisdom, and feel more confident to be with others in their fullest, most authentic expressions.
We can honor our deepest truths, and act in alignment with them, as worthy and wise beings.
We can relate in healthy, safe, and fulfilling ways in intimate relationships, in our families, in our workplaces, our communities, and with the other-than-human beings we share this planet with.
When our deepest layers feel worthy, it ripples outward into everything we do, everything we ARE.
Negative experiences, especially those of neglect, that take place within your marriage and significant relationships, create echoes that reinforce embodied experiences of “I don’t matter” or “Everyone else matters more” from early life experiences.
The portals of divorce and breakup and the rawness they contain offer a powerful opportunity to reach deeply into the core parts of you that hold messages on “mattering.”
The parts of you who always knew your innate worth—-your sacred human-ness, are yours to reclaim.
Herein lies the way to Rise, like the Phoenix, from your core, to every aspect of your being.
In today’s Phoenix Speaks, you’ll hear:
Self-worth vs. Self-Esteem (and why this is a BIG deal).
The relationship between your sense of self-worth and need fulfillment
A temperature check you can use to notice where we're at in our personal journey of worthiness
Why high-self worth contributes to higher levels of energy, fulfillment, and even our personal safety.
The 3 critical skills we build to strengthen our sense of self-worth.
Why the divorce portal is an ideal time to explore your relationship with worthiness, and identify areas to go deeper.
How your past relationships offer valuable clues about you, your needs, and the muscles you can "flex" to create healthier, more fulfilling relationships moving forward.
3 ways you can engage further with this work starting today
How did you like the audio format? Would you like it to appear more regularly? Hit Reply & let me know!
Warmly,
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