Hello again, dear one.
In these uncertain times, globally, and perhaps even in your relationship transition, we’re often faced with platitudes and quotes inviting us to “embrace uncertainty,” or “trust the process.”
This advice may ring true. After all, nothing is certain but uncertainty, right?
We know that times when the Known eludes us, or perhaps has literally fallen apart before our eyes, will continue to be a part of life.
These platitudes can also feel maddening, impossible, or, depending on your personal circumstances, an uncaring bypass of the precarious situation you’re facing.
If you’ve been in the divorce portal for a while and Uncertainty looks like having a million questions, a million potential directions to go down, and perhaps half a million booby traps waiting along the way, “trusting the process” may sound great in theory, but how does that actually look in day to day life?
If you’re staring down the barrel of financial challenges, painful emotions from a conflict-ridden breakup, or fear or heartbreak’s that’s draining the energy you need to function, encouragement to “embrace the unknown” may feel like a bunch of bull.
So how DO you “embrace,” “trust,” “step into faith” or “let yourself be in your process” with some semblance of grace?
Sadly, there’s no way to sail through the winds of change like an acrobat in Cirque du Soleil.
However, I can share some ways that you can fly feeling more supported by a safety harness, with a safety net in view, and more comforted by the inevitability that you will land intact perhaps even with a bit of a flourish.
Today I’m here to offer you some commiseration as well as some concrete steps to feel more tethered in turbulent transitions.
In today’s Phoenix Speaks, you’ll hear:
The unavoidable role of the Unknown & uncertainty in divorce, breakup, and relationship transition
A little story about my recent enforced “surrender to the process”
The most annoying (and often accurate) advice you receive during this time, and how it actually looks to follow it up.
What nature & alchemy teach us about the messiness of transformation.
5 sequential steps you can follow to better weather the ups, downs, and unknowns of relationship transition (or any other transition big or small).
How to leverage your capacity through various stages of transition (i.e. working WITH your process, emotions, and energy levels, not against them.)
Ways to find and anchor into “drumbeats” or “heartbeats” of security and stability.
The importance of “acknowledging the suckage” and remembering that everything that goes wrong isn’t always your fault.
How to let the wildness of uncertainty work in favor of your personal growth & development.
An invitation to receive an additional resource if Steps 3 & beyond feel out of reach
If this episode spoke to you, I’d love to know! Which steps feel accessible to you? What’s one small shift you plan to make today to support yourself in this transition. Comment below or Hit Reply & let me know!
Wishing you the smoothest sailing possible in these turbulent times.
Warmly,
Kimberly
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